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Balancing between your Relationships & Friendships

Relationship and friendship can coexist happily. You don’t have to choose one over another. Finding the balance between your friend and significant other can be incredibly hard and tiring, but where there is a will there is always a way.

The excitement of a new relationship is overwhelming and fun, and we want nothing more than to be with that person 24/7. We often get so involved in that person, that we lose track of friends who have always been around. If we put ourselves in our friends shoes we will realize, how it feels to have your friend taken away by someone. When you are in a relationship, it’s hard to not want to do everything you can to make that person happy and get to know him or her as best as you can. Friends should understand this, they should give some time off to let you know the other person. But after this “knowing each other” period gets over, and if you don’t want to lose your friends, you have to give your friends also their due importance and time.

Communication is the key to maintaining balance. Tell your friends that you want to make sure they aren’t feeling left out, and if that ever happens, they should let you know unhesitatingly. Also tell your partner that you like spending some time alone with your friends and vice versa. More importantly,  Be present there with whomever you are deciding on spending time with. And do not keep talking about the other one all the time. It is important to spend quality time rather than just long hours.

Commitment is the second important key. Whatever that may be, you better make sure you stick to your word. Don’t keep cancelling your plans with one to accommodate other. Even if you are not feeling up to it, dress up and show up. If you have had a fight with your significant other, do not cancel plans with your friends. When you move away from the situation, you get a fresher and better perspective to solve the argument. Never bail out program with one for another.

Remember the best thing is to have balance between both. Friends and relationships both need love and attention. If all focus shifts to one person, you risk losing the friends that have been there for you through everything. It’s easy to get carried away with the relationship and devote all your time to it, but if you put yourself in your friends shoes and imagine how you would feel if you were pushed aside and constantly cancelled on, it should help you put extra effort in your friendships and relationships.

The best thing is to keep both friendship and relationship as two separate parts of your lives, prioritizing and giving time and energy to both, as both are important to you. If you are honest and clear about things, you will have lesser difficulty in balancing.


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