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Define Your Life for Yourself

“He likes me”. “He likes me”. A beautiful girl in her 20s kept thinking. She did all positive talking with herself, that the boy is really interested in her and likes her very much. But it appeared that he thought of this beautiful smart girl as “friend”. This broke the girl’s heart and she had a nervous breakdown. She felt she was worthless and no one is ever going to like her.

Confidence is not they will like me, confidence is I’ll be ok even if they don’t. Expecting everyone to like us is setting ourselves for failure. There is no one in this world who is liked by everyone. Our favorite celebrities on social media, who have a million followers are trolled by haters. Their photos and activities are bombarded with hate comments and criticisms. How you feel about yourself, when you are alone, is true confidence. Till when are you going to ask others “How do I look in this?” Till when are you going to accept other definition of “success” for you!

Define for yourself, what is important for you, what do you value. “What you believe in” should be your own definition for happiness and success. No compliment will mean anything if you don’t like yourself. And, if you change yourself for others, if you start living life as per others’ wish, you will be very unhappy and hate yourself. Your beauty and intelligence are not dependent on others compliments and recognitions. You can spend your whole life trying to become someone you don’t know, to be liked by people you don’t like. When you start loving yourself, you don’t need anyone’s validation. You wouldn’t need others to like you. When you realize what you are worthy of, you would avoid people cant see it.

You don’t need anyone’s approval to bloom into a beautiful person that you are! You just need to love and accept yourself unconditionally.

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