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Fear of Failure

How many of us are afraid of failing - in university/school exams, in life exams?? Behind this fear of failure is worry about doing something wrong, looking foolish, not meeting expectations, crushing dreams, and so many more things.

Warren Buffet, one of the world’s richest and most successful businessmen, was rejected by Harvard University. Michael Jordan, one of the greatest basketball players, was kicked out of his high school basketball team because his coach didn’t think he was competent enough. Most of us will stumble and fall in life. We might make some bad decisions. But imagine if Michael Jordan had given up on his dreams to play basketball when he was cut off from the team.

Think of opportunities you will miss if you let your failures stop you. Instead of thinking “what if I fail”, wouldn’t it be better if we think “what if I succeed”! Often valuable insights come only after a failure. Accepting and learning from these insights is key to succeeding in life.

Understand that when the mind is calm, intellect is clear, the action is brilliant. However, well prepared we maybe if the mind is disturbed, thinking gets confused and we are not able to access our own knowledge. Hence, a calm mind is an essential tool for success. Also, we need to concentrate on the present to be successful. A batsman gets out at 95 runs, it’s not that he is not a brilliant player but his mind got shifted from now to his past failures and anxiety to reach 100 runs. Similarly, a student who has aced all her practice tests makes silly mistakes in her final board exams because she gets overwhelmed with anxiety. So what is needed is to give your 100% in preparation, focus on learning and at the same time remain calm.

The chips aren’t always going to fall where you want them to - but If you understand that reality going in, you can be prepared to wring the most value out of the experience, no matter the outcome. The fear of failure creates a barrier in our minds to step out of our comfort zone. But unless we step out, we cannot grow. We may fail, we may succeed but we need to take steps further towards our goals. Don’t keep sticking and brooding over failure, learn from them and keep striving towards your goal.

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