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Manipulative people in our Lives

You are in a chirpy mood and you meet someone who is very close to you and all of sudden you start feeling life is crap. You get up in the morning with a positive mood, and then there are a lot of negative vibes and you start feeling bad. You may be in a relationship with a manipulative person who is toxic, he/she may be your close friend, your partner, your colleague!
You felt you wanted to say you were hurt about a certain thing and all of the sudden scenario changed and everything became your fault and you were made to feel guilty and apologize. You have a hate and love relationship with this person. You are only given importance only when they need you otherwise you are ignored, stabbed and left
alone. They would always want you to be stuck with them, so they would tell you
a million reasons why you can not do a certain thing which would take you away from them. These toxic people neither would want to be helped nor would help themselves, yet they would want everyone around to feel as terrible as they do about life, work, money, and happiness.
We all know we feel helpless when it comes to dealing with this manipulative person. They are very difficult to deal with. Should we fight with them or simply accept them as they are!

Most important is to not emotionally react to them. Toxic people aren’t worthy of that anyway. Be clear, concise, forthright, logical and don’t attach yourself to anything they say. Also, realize enough is enough. It’s time to take a stand. Understand that these manipulative people don’t want to learn more, do better or be different. They want everyone around them to just put up with their ways and make accommodations or them. Don’t try to change them and don’t expect them to change or you will be disappointed.
One of the innovative ways to deal with them is to make yourself boring, nonreactive and unremarkable as possible. Be emotionally unresponsive to their comments and pokes. Prioritize your happiness and sanity. It’s not going to be easy, but it will be rewarding. Don’t let anyone make you feel small in your life.

It’s not worth it.

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