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Negative Attitudes in Life

Have you ever been around someone who is so cheerful, that you find yourself smiling in spite of yourself? What about that person for whom nothing is ever right – do you find yourself avoiding them?

We are talking about people who are whiners – constantly complaining about any and everything. We all have those people in our lives, that believe that the whole world is against them. Something is always wrong in their life. They would see the glass as half empty and are always venting, complaining, criticizing and comparing. How much ever,  we try we cannot make them move ahead, they will always be caught in the bubble in the space. 

But do you know, what is going on in their heads and lives? They live life out of fear. They fear that things won’t just work for them or something bad is going to happen to them. They constantly want love and validations from people around. They speak and think negatively because they want to build a wall around themselves to protect themselves. Before others could point fingers at them, they start pointing fingers at others. They want all the attention and sympathy. But the irony is as much they want all these, people tend to run away from them. This is because negativity is contagious as is positivity.  If you see them with empathy, you will realize the kind of pain and trouble they are going through. These people are generally lonely and depressed. A negative attitude is almost a guarantee that life will be more difficult and less fulfilling than it should be.

We all have negative moments. Everyone goes through a lot, but we have to choose to grow through it. Choose your battles. Don’t engage every time someone irritates you or tries to bring you into their negativity. Not only will you be seen as argumentative, but you will also be welcoming the negativity in your space. When you are around negative people, you start seeing the world more negatively. You are not required to listen to everything a negative person has to say. Be kind and compassionate with negative people, empathize with them, but do not get involved. Do not make their problems yours. Don’t take the onus of other people’s feelings and emotions on your shoulder, you need to put your well-being ahead of others. 

We can order our life by ordering our attitude. Attitude always begins with a thought. Whatever thoughts you have, you have because you’ve experienced life in a certain and specific way. You are how you are because of the influences you have allowed into your life -your mind. Whatever you give your attention to becomes a priority in your life, good or bad. So instead of talking about problems, talk about solutions. Instead of thinking about how bad things are, think about how good they will be. Count your blessings every day. Focus on today and this moment, instead of thinking about what wrong happened in the past or dwelling on fear of the future.  Choose to give benefit of doubt to others. Understand people are busy in their lives, and nobody is there to make your life miserable. Surround yourself with positive people. Positivity is also contagious.

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