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Stop craving for that Importance!!

Happy people never crave for importance from others,  they are the ones who give others importance.  How many of us have this craving for importance? We need people to like us, appreciate us, give us the importance, validate us! On social media when our likes and followers increase, we feel important. We all need to belong and feel accepted! But this basic need to belong and to be made to feel important has now become addictive and fear-based ‘want’.

The need for approval is killing our freedom. We all want to be liked but changing who you are, just to be liked means you are not actually liked for who you are. If you change yourself for someone, trust me they would, in the end, say you have changed or find a new fault with you. These kinds of people have nothing better to do than put others down. The world does not appreciate you for good that you do but will put you down for one mistake you made. Rise above the criticism and stay strong. Don’t amplify that one thing. Don’t let compliments get to your head and criticism get to your heart.

Stop caring about what others think. Stop chasing a false reality. Don’t live for the approval of others. Don’t live for likes on your social media accounts. Try focusing on how your need for approval is pushing you to do too much, instead of participating in things that are important to you. When you find yourself getting hurt by doing things for others at the expense of yourself; it’s time to make a change.

When you make a decision check in with yourself that it feels right, remind yourself that it is your choice and give yourself validation for just being you. It’s human nature to be self-conscious, but letting other’s opinions of you dictate the person you should be is pathetic.

Treat yourself as the most important person in your world. Always know what your strengths are and what is likable about you. At any point in time, you should be able to list ten great things about you. Work on your self-esteem and self-worth. 

Life is too short to make everyone like you. Just accept that some people are bound to dislike you and it’s nobody’s fault. There’s only one ‘you’ in this world, so don’t conceal or fake that. Let the world see the real you because you are worthy. Embrace yourself and celebrate who you are. 

This craving for importance is like as much you run after it, you will keep chasing it for your lifetime. But once you know why you are important and have all the love for yourself, all the confidence of being you, when you start recognizing what matters to you, when this craving for importance is no more a need but just a bi-product; people will automatically love you and give you importance.

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